Sometimes the direction of our life changed at a single word said thoughtlessly by a single person, we are healed of our scars. Scars are not only treated by the ones we love. Among the people we meet, there is that person.
Scars that seeps into ones brain and heart. Damages unseen by naked eye. Buried deep down, almost impossible to heal as we earnestly deal the painful memories of the dreaded experiences. We become jaded and bruised.
The pain of remembering it, and the remorse cause by that painful memories may sometimes lead us to be detach from reality. The fear of recurrence. The denial stage, that sometimes we are unaware of how much it had affected us. But when we realized how it had impacted us greatly, only then we’re able to accept the fact it happened.
Acknowledging it happened, one can heal and deal with it. Once you mentally grab hold of the reality of it, then one can embrace that hurtful experience and then let it go. Accepting the fact that the scars are now part of who you are.
Decide to move on. We may not know it but we have that willpower within us to overcome those wounds. It may not be easy process but forgiveness is the key of healing and moving on. First, forgive yourself. Focus on that. Forgive yourself of whatever reason or that you might have contributed to cause that painful experience to happen. Forgive the person/s who hurt you. It’s the only way you can open up your heart again.
Change your perspective. What have you learned and the benefits of that experience? It made you resilient and stronger. You’ve grown more mature as you were able to deal past it. You’ve built up your defensive wall inside you but it has already served it’s purpose, now is the time to remove it. Let people in and let your friends, family, and loved ones protect you instead.
Change yourself. Be more expressive. Let people know you’re hurt, and what they did bothers you. Don’t suppress your pain, it will only deepen your wounds, which will eventually turn into hatred and resentment. Forgive and forget, you’ll be happier if you do it.
Practice visualization, as it gives you the power to create a positive mental image of yourself. Create a personal space where you can be alone. To allow yourself to heal every time you’re hurt and replenish your energy when needed.
Write or keep a journal. It is the most safest way to release your anger, pain and sufferings as you can express it uncensored. Words become your ally, it wont fail you. You can burn it after, if it makes you feel any better. It offers solace, gives reassuring effect as it removes doubt and fears. It may later on make you feel proud of yourself as you were able to keep track of your progress in life. It may also motivate you, reminding yourself how strong you were to overcome those hurdles.
No one really knows why we need to experience such events, nor why we have to be hurt and scarred. Let go of the past and the pain. Just remember this. Someone loves you. Someone cares for you. Someone somewhere out there thinks of you. You deserve to be happy. The mystery of life. It what makes us who we are.
“You rise, you fall, you’re down, then you rise again. What don’t kill you make you more strong.” From the song Broken, Beat and Scarred of Metallica