Something that we all have is a skewed idea of what makes a perfect relationship.
As millennials, relationships are widely put out there because of social media. If you aren’t on social media, then you don’t really have a true understanding and or people don’t think that your relationship is perfect for you. Unfortunately, that gives a false sense of what makes a perfect relationship.
There are a ton of factors that tie into relationships, and the best one for you. With all of the factors that go into relationships, I decided to put together 7 of the Core factors that tie into What Makes a Perfect relationship.
- Family and Future
- Being Human
Where each of these things might seem insignificant in the long goal of a tenured relationship, each plays a crucial role in them.
Now lets dig deeper into these, and why they are so important.
Now, individuality in relationships (See Full Post) is one of the most crucial things that we can talk about.
Individuality in relationships is simply put, being yourself. To grow and nurture a healthy relationship this is the foundation of what you should be doing day in and day out. Fortunately, it shouldn’t be too hard to just be you. But oftentimes that isn’t the case.
The perfect relationship is built on multiple premises. Individuality is the most important (In my opinion obviously). Why?
Well, the perfect relationship starts with 1 thing…… 2 Individuals. Simple Right?
Since we already have a strong foundation of what it takes. Everything else should fall into place.
But here’s the thing…
Just being you isn’t enough, a perfect relationship in most people’s eyes is being able to be you and to do all of the things that you normally would while not in a relationship, while you are still in a strong faithful relationship. That is where things get tricky, because that is much harder than it seems. But not impossible.
To be an Individual simple put is just being yourself, never forget where you came from, and who you were before you got into the relationship and from there you will see that everything else starts to fall into place how you want it.
Now this is one that might seem a bit silly, but relationships thrive on goals.
Who would want to be in a relationship where the other person doesn’t have any goals in life? I would assume none of you would…
Having goals is a key in finding and knowing that you are in a perfect relationship in the simple fact that goals define where you want to be. Where you have the current things that you are doing, ie. Jobs, School, and Hobbies. But when you have goals for more than just now, you are looking forward into the future, that is simple put….Attractive.
Being goal driven helps make you and your partner a better candidate for a perfect relationship, even if you might not think so. If you think that a picture, or how people act together can be #Relationshipgoals then you are wrong.
The real #goals are the ones which you are thinking about the future and what you want to accomplish. Being in a relationship where you have like minded goals is the first true sign of a perfect match. Break it down, where do you want to be in 10 years? What Kind of Career do you Plan on Having? What’re your Dreams? Things like this to where you can dig deep into their mind, versus worrying about the physical and materialistic things.
Goals are a make or break type thing. Where you can have goals, or you don’t. But digging deep into what makes a perfect relationship makes you understand the value of goals. Long term relationships thrive on these, as you are driven to goals everyday. Sometimes just going after things that just don’t matter, isn’t winning any awards.
Communication for Relationship Success
Now, Since we have been breaking down what makes a perfect relationship we have to remember the basics….Communication.
Communication in relationships is one of those lost arts in which can only be found if really sought after. But unfortunately communication is few and far between. After laying a solid foundation, we have to maintain the foundation in peak condition. Communication is just that.
Something that all of us need to learn and to definitely take to heart is the value of communication. Without communication you couldn’t even understand the person that you are with. Not just that, the above ^ couldn’t happen either. Without being able to communicate you can’t have a foundation which leads to everything else.
Have you ever heard the saying “Communication is Key?”
I’m sure you have,
Communication isn’t just the key to success in life, but it is a huge KEY for Perfect Relationships. This should be one of the most important things when you are going into the dating world, especially as a millennial (Or anyone for that matter).
But lets just say that Communication is the most important thing for relationship success. It is the one thing that you can use to get into the mind of your (potential) significant other. Just being able to communicate gives that upper hand in a tenured relationship.
You would be surprised (or not) to how many relationships fail because you just can’t talk about how you feel to your significant other. But again, Communication if key for relationship success.
Are Disagreements Healthy in Relationships?
Believe it or not yes!
Most people might think that having disagreements or arguments is one thing that can drive people away from each other, however in most cases they can bring you even closer. Here’s the thing though, disagreeing is healthy, but to an extent.
If you are disagreeing about things that are extremely important, that might be a bit different. Like if you or your partner can’t take something seriously that needs to be taken seriously, then that is where the issues arrive. However, that happens to be something that still is needed. In my relationship, we do argue, and disagree A LOT, but that doesn’t mean it will break us as a couple. Both her and I understand that yes we will get Mad, Pissed and Frustrated, even at the silliest things, but we aren’t going anywhere.
Going through things is healthy just as arguing.
These make us stronger and bring us together. Where we will have disagreements, in a “Perfect Relationship” those are going to be a part of what makes it perfect. Granted, you might think that nothing is perfect if you aren’t on the same page. But that’s the thing, they help you get onto the same page.
Going back to the previous example, Communication is a part of this. Disagreements are about communication, and since that is key, you have to be able to do one before knowing why arguments are healthy for your relationship.
Knowing Where Each other Stands on Family
Family is extremely important.
So it shouldn’t be a huge surprise that when you are looking to get into a serious relationship that family will be brought up. Do you want to have a family? Kids? How is your Relationship with your Family?
These are all things that will be addressed at some point, and again you have to be on the same page. Don’t get me wrong, at times you will have to learn to adapt, but coming to terms with both of your needs and wants in this department is something huge.
Oftentimes people who consider themselves “millennials” either A. Don’t want a Family or B. Want to Have “Fun”. Never lose track or settle. That’s important. If you want to have a Big Family, then by all means be patient and wait for the right person, but also know what the right person/relationship looks like.
The biggest thing to take away from this, is that family is important like I said, but at the same time, you and your partner need to have the same mindset. You can’t really expect a perfect relationship to be one in which the idea of family is different. Things just won’t work out like that.
Nonetheless, you have to keep this in mind.
You are Human
Now this is an interesting one, but the most important by far.
You are human. You can’t sit here and expect everything to go so extremely perfect in the relationship, if you don’t fall on your face sometimes. It happens…. We all do it.
But understanding that indeed yes you are human, will help make the biggest difference in that journey to finding the perfect relationship. Being human is just that, be you. You will make so many mistakes in your life that it is ridiculous, but that shouldn’t stop you from loving or searching for love. Believe me, I’m by no means perfect (Even though I try to be), and more often than not, I accept that.
Where this might seem like the most obvious thing, it is indeed the hardest of all.
Especially with the mindset that many of us have, we have the idea that we have to be perfect in everything in order to succeed. Well, especially in relationships that doesn’t quite work out that way. Why? Well, simply because if we chase being perfect all of the time, we never will be anything but depressed.
Seeing people from afar, and judging and comparing ourselves to them, hits hard. But at the same time, it brings us back down. Just because we see that person as “perfect” and put it into our heads that we will never be that way. Well, stop. Now.
Being Yourself is the most attractive thing in the world.
Both of you have to realize this, and if you are lucky enough to be in your perfect relationship, I’m sure you both know this already.
Perfection is different for each of us, but at the end of the day, the true perfect relationship is where you are human, you are you, and your partner is them.
Support is another one of those thing which might seem obvious.
But unfortunately it isn’t as obvious as you might think.
Support in a relationship will be one thing that helps with longevity. You never know how important it is, until you look back on all of the times you had with that person. Now, Support doesn’t just mean support goals, lifestyle, and finances.
Support is a bit different.
When you are supportive in a relationship you genuinely are there for the other person. In a perfect relationship you will find that supporting comes naturally. You want the other person to be okay no matter what. No matter the financial situation, living, job or life situation. Your partner is there for you, and vice versa. You have to be supportive to everything about them. Heck, if you want to cry, they are there to be your shoulder. If you want to vent about your horrible day at work, hey they are there for that.
When you have a supportive significant other, you will find that so many other things in your life are easier. For instance, the misses supports me in everything that I do, and everything that happens. Shes the type of person that will make sure everything is going alright, and if shes needed, she is there.
It might be hard to find….
But no matter what, the perfect person for you is out there, and you will have that support system through all of life’s ups and downs. Whatever comes you guys way, you can conquer with each other, and knowing that nothing can stop you.
So What is a Perfect Relationship?
A perfect relationship is going to be different from person to person. But at the end of the day its simple. Things just mesh, perfectly.
Where you might find that so many different relationships are broken, and people are in them for the wrong reasons, you have to keep positive. Things will work out in your favor one way or another. But keep in mind, these 7 hacks for a perfect relationship can be merely guidelines and give you an idea of what to expect.
You might find your perfect relationship today, tomorrow or even in 10 years, but at the end of the day it boils down to these 7 things that create the foundation that is a Perfect Relationship for YOU.