Loneliness is sometimes a blessing, sometimes a tragedy. It all depends on the way you accept and understand it.
Few times it’s up to us if we want to be surrounded or not. If we rather be alone than around people, but in most occasions, loneliness and silence is imposed and sentenced. Some people have no trouble with it, others can’t stand it.
Time and some wounds have taught me that being alone is a valuable tool in many ways. You can change your point of view and stop complaining, in case you tend to be a victim, and realize what an awesome chance you got to dive in deep down on your mind and take advantage of this silence to face your own ghosts.
In fact, I think that loneliness happens to be so scary to some because it forces you to be alone with yourself. And if you’ve been hiding your fears and needs under a carpet, there you have them waiting for you.
Personally, I love being alone most of the time, although I need my family, because being alone I find silence, and silence it’s what my mind needs to work properly. Anyways, I have no more option than being alone, so I must have learnt to be, appreciate and even enjoy my own thoughts, whether sharp, kind of dark. They are mines. And so is my mind.
These lines lead me to tell you that only in loneliness begins your self-knowledge, your own acceptation. With all your parts involved. There’s a quote I love, unknown author’s, “I want all those parts you tried to throw away, thinking that no one would ever love them.” I think it’s specially beautiful if you apply it to yourself. It’s easy to love light, but are you willing to embrace the side you’ve been trying to hide to everyone? Only in this point on, you can start making big changes. First, acceptation and love, second, taking decisions.