Dealing with Loneliness

Loneliness is sometimes a blessing, sometimes a tragedy. It all depends on the way you accept and understand it.

Few times it’s up to us if we want to be surrounded or not. If we rather be alone than around people, but in most occasions, loneliness and silence is imposed and sentenced. Some people have no trouble with it, others can’t stand it.

Time and some wounds have taught me that being alone is a valuable tool in many ways. You can change your point of view and stop complaining, in case you tend to be a victim, and realize what an awesome chance you got to dive in deep down on your mind and take advantage of this silence to face your own ghosts.

In fact, I think that loneliness happens to be so scary to some because it forces you to be alone with yourself. And if you’ve been hiding your fears and needs under a carpet, there you have them waiting for you.

Personally, I love being alone most of the time, although I need my family, because being alone I find silence, and silence it’s what my mind needs to work properly. Anyways, I have no more option than being alone, so I must have learnt to be, appreciate and even enjoy my own thoughts, whether sharp, kind of dark. They are mines. And so is my mind.

These lines lead me to tell you that only in loneliness begins your self-knowledge, your own acceptation. With all your parts involved. There’s a quote I love, unknown author’s, “I want all those parts you tried to throw away, thinking that no one would ever love them.” I think it’s specially beautiful if you apply it to yourself. It’s easy to love light, but are you willing to embrace the side you’ve been trying to hide to everyone? Only in this point on, you can start making big changes. First, acceptation and love, second, taking decisions.


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My work and soul are focused on visceral effort.
On the hunger of something better.
The freedom of discipline.
The righteousness of honesty and humbleness.
The intense power of bowing down.
The abruptness of finding your way to a safe place.
The peace when you finally find it.

That’s why I work on motivation, inner inspiration and self-empowerment.


  1. Great post. I completely agree that time alone, which may or may not be categorized as loneliness, is when we can quiet the mind, and truly discover what perhaps we may have been overlooking. Busyness has become a status symbol (here in the US), and with that comes the ability to push away those lingering thoughts and musings. When we let go of busyness as a status symbol, we get to see ourselves, even the parts we have yet to accept, and then we can acknowledge them. That’s when the real work begins.

  2. I am campaigning here in Somerset UK to alleviate loneliness. By this I don’t mean the times when there’s no one around, I’m talking about the deep heart wrenching loneliness, when there are no one but strangers, or officials in your life. People ( especially the elderly ) can frequently live in total isolation. Often they have little choice. It may be through illness or lack of confidence or one of many, many other reasons. Many people lose the will to carry on, simply because they have no one to be there for them. This is a horrendous way to live.

  3. There is nothing wrong with being alone. But there is a stark difference between being alone and being isolated. Being alone involves getting to know yourself; a self-actualization situation. But isolation is a problem and it’s dangerous for those who isolate themselves from the world. Alone time is figuring out your surroundings by watching and listening; while isolation forces you to lose a connection to the world around you.

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