Through my work, I use to receive emails from people telling me things and, today I received one from a sweetheart who, in a determined moment said “can I be a beautiful mind too?” Oh my, I teared up because, that shows a depth of sadness and loneliness who could demolish anyone. So, beyond responding her, I wanted to share something here.
Certain kind of overthinking/compulsive/circular minds are difficult to deal with, because they require a huge amount of strength to handle them. It takes courage and a bold heart to take the reigns.
These people are often (very often) misunderstood, moved aside, judged. You find yourself alone, introspected, introverted and your inner world turns as passionate as your thoughts allow you to.
Listen to me: you are not wrong. You are not weird. You are different. Yes, different. And what? To me, most of the times it comes down to one thing: fierceness. When you feel everything in a very sensorial, visceral, deep way, you free the chains of your stinking thinking.
Why? Because you can’t (yet) control the intensity of your thoughts. Sharp, intense, throbbing. Sometimes, scary, harrowing, savage. The feeling of losing control make your mind shake and what you feel is that something is very, very wrong with you.Let me tell you something: No. Do you need to learn more than others? Yes.
Do you need guide? Yes, you do. Do you need to find the right person/people to hold your hand? Yes.Are you different? Yes. Beautifully different, dear.First step, start your way to love yourself.
Difficult? Oh my you have no idea. But not impossible, and it pays off. I, myself, needed lots of discipline, hard lessons and pain to hold my horses. But now I couldn’t be more proud.
That’s why, once I step on my feet, I want to rise others up. Because you are strong yourself, but you need the inertia of someone pulling you up.Look for people who love you just for the way you are.
I read lots of bullshit, look, it’s easy. Who loves you, will never make you feel humiliated, bring you down or put you in a dangerous situation. You don’t need someone to sing you virtues, you need someone who holds, not your hand, your arm firmly.
Love your fierceness, your intensity, because although it makes you walk more alone than others, when you find your place, you’ll be able to sense every single emotion with a sharpness you had never experienced before.Don’t let others judge you.
Turn away. Forgive. Forget.
Do not tolerate anything but a true gentleman.
Do not accept anything but a true lady.