3 Simple Ways to Maintain Individuality in Relationships

When you are talking about relationships, to maintain your individuality in relationships is something which you cannot afford to halter.

Regardless of what kind of relationship it might be, you being you is crucial. When you go into any relationship, you are making a commitment to that person, a commitment which essentially you are giving your word that you will be you and put your all into it no matter what. With something as big as that, there have to be some ways in which you can implement into your daily life to ensure, that you never forget about yourself.

Here are 3 ways which you can keep in mind to maintain individuality, and build stronger relationships because of doing so.

1. Never Forgetting your Passions.

When you go into a relationship, that person has found some type of compatibility with the things that you love, and the things that they love.

Maintain your Individuality in Relationships by following your passions

Your passions give you a individuality in their own, which in turn gives some individuality in relationships, no matter what they are. They are something which shape who you are as a person, and how you will bring many different things to the table in that sense.

Even if it is Simply Baking:

You have to always make sure you keep up with your passions and hobbies. Baking, Exercise, Working on Cars (Like Me), these are the things that you have to keep doing. No matter if you just got into a relationship, or you are in a Long term Marriage, Keep doing YOU. Now, if that is something that is going against actually being in a relationship, then you obviously know what to do.


Keep it going, but always keep in mind:

That In many instances, you will find that some things kind of phase out, simply because your mind is telling you that you don’t need them anymore. The harsh reality of that is, when you start doing the things that you love less, you are loving yourself less, and not feeding your soul and making sure it is strong and healthy. Though, we have saw the harsh reality of that, but what do we do now?

Never forget Stop doing what we love,

This is a huge Key, in keeping yourself going strong and happy.

So, never forgetting those things will be crucial in not only relationships, but your life.

2. Keep Dreaming.

One thing that is lost many times is the ability to have a dream. You will hear me talk about it more often than not, but having a dream literally will give you something to look forward to and to build on. Your dreams can only become a reality when you act upon them. Where being a dreamer and thinking about individuality in relationships come together is basically, your dreams are yours and yours alone.

Keep Dreaming to Maintain your Individuality in Relationships

No one can take them from you, nor will they ever do so, therefore it is very important to keep dreaming, keep striving for the things which you want. Dreams are the one thing that I never would let go, regardless of what I’ve been told.

See the thing is:

With being a dreamer, you always are moving forward. You aren’t dwelling on the past, but you are constantly envisioning a future, not only with that person, but for you and your family. Granted, the Balance is tough at times, but being a dreamer is the one thing that YOU MUST MAINTAIN.

If someone tells you that you are too much of a dreamer and don’t act on those, ignore them, simply put, they are wrong. Having dreams is a trait which many people say they have, but the thinking that goes behind it is very rare in this world. People are jealous of things they don’t understand, and until that person comes along who just gets you, the hearsay about having a dream is nothing but noise. Those kinds of people don’t deserve to be in your life. For your current relationships, being a dreamer will keep the fire alive and burning strong. It adds variety which you cannot get in many places.

Related: The Characteristics of a Dreamer

3. Let the Past be the Past, But Appreciate it.

The past is the past for a reason. But with individuality comes a unique past which you cannot escape no matter what you do. The big thing to take away and to understand, is that if it wasn’t for the past, you would not be the same person that you are today. The past shapes who you are, where the present shapes who you will become.

Where the past is going to be a huge factor in how we are present for the future, it doesn’t have to define it.

Like Many of you, I’ve had an interesting past in a relationship standpoint.Let the Past be the Past, to Help Maintain Individuality in Relationships

Relationships rely mainly on the present and the future; the past will be something that will linger no matter what. To make things work out amazingly, you and the other must realize that like I said, the past is the past, the future is what will become and the present is a gift. Working together to shape something, which appreciating how far you as a person have come is the key to success in having individuality in relationships.

How do you maintain your individuality in Relationships?

What suggestions would you give someone who sought advice?

Let us know in the comments below!

Thank you for reading as always!

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Dustin Meyer

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  1. I really like this post. Very interesting and easy to read. Good job

  2. I loved this post. I think the foundation of a good relationship is the ability to learn and grow with another person and that requires retaining some of your individuality! Looking forward to reading more. Thanks for stopping by my blog.

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  4. Great post 🙂 Me and my partner love to cultivate new, shared passions and dreams while still appreciating that we are individuals with often quite different ideas about the world.

  5. I’m practicing meditation and conscious breathing to deter dwelling on the past, that’s where my mind wanders to

    • That is awesome, definitely a good place to start. Try to focus on the future as much as you can, I know how it is thinking about the past. Its good that you are taking measures to stay on the right track!

      Thank you for reading!

  6. Great post. Maintaining independence and individuality is the key to a successful relationship!

  7. I agree. I think the thing that leads to many problems in relationships is the fallacy that another person will “make us happy.” That’s an unfair expectation to put on another human being. Having someone to love who loves us back can make us feel more complete, but if we are not happy already, we cannot expect the other person to make that happen. Maintaining our individuality and having dreams and goals helps to make us happy with ourselves, which will make us better in relationships with other people.

  8. Hey Dustin great advice on how to maintain your individuality in relationships and in life. Remembering your passions, continuing to dream and learning from but letting your past be the past are great tips. I sure wish I would have had a firm grasp of understanding of all of this back in my 20’s Lol. Oh well, we are ever learning and growing (well at least I am anyway)! Thanks for stopping by and visiting my blog and liking it. I like yours as well. Keep writing and inspiring others! Much Love & Peace :-)!

    • Thank you very much, I definitely am glad you found this helpful. I definitely am the same with learning and growing, it is so crucial for us to do in our lives.

      Thanks again for reading!

  9. I loved everything about this post. I personally think it’s critical to always dream, and set goals to work towards. If your never working towards anything in life, how could you possibly be progressing? Great Post!!!!

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  11. In most of the relationships that I see around me, the couples get caught up in themselves and lose their own identity in turn becoming only what their couple/relationship is. They only do things together and never have time for others around them, they become this blob of a couple and have no definition of who each person is. A healthy relationship should be a balance of together and apart. Sadly we try to pair ourselves in relationships that are mirror images of what we like and dislike so we have someone to share said interests with; this is never truly the case and we all have things that we like that our partners don’t. In having this time to ourselves we are able to maintain those likes and have some sense of individualism and let us become our singular person for a while until we decide to return back to our relationship where we have new things to talk about and discuss, debate and reflect. Being an individual in a relationship means keeping who you are and not having to sacrifice what we want.
    Great post by the way 🙂

  12. Yes that’s definitely true. I’m fortunate to have been in a very long relationship – gosh we met when I was 15 and we’re still together 42 years later! Respecting each other’s passions and loving our individualities has been key. I won’t pretend that we didn’t go through our ups and downs but in the downs, the thing that raised us up was reminding ourselves of what we fell in love with in the first place.. Great post x

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